Is Chicago, Is Not Chicago

I know that I have mentioned before how cheep my husband and I both are.  I mean my husband buys all his cloths second hand.  I made some comment about it the other day and he began to suggest (jokingly I hope) that he could start getting underwear there too.  Sure sometimes it's a little annoying scrimping and saving all the time and still being broke but I guess that's what happens when you're a stay at home mom. 
Surprisingly, the husband has made a few purchases lately.  He actually bought himself a spring jacket... FROM A STORE!  Mind you it was still extremely discounted and the first time in about 10 years he's bought a jacket of any type.  We also went out for lunch, had to fix the breaks on the car, he took the kids to Fun Works and we went to the little carnival they set up in town.  The one way my husband tends to be less cheep is when it comes to the kids.  We both would like them to be able to enjoy themselves and have the things they would like.  That doesn't mean though that we just spend, spend, spend.  We still look for deals, I mean, why not.  I don't mean the I get shotty stuff that looks acceptable but falls apart quickly.  I do want things to be quality, sturdy and to look nice.  I just want to get those nice things for the lowest possible price.  So yes, I cut corners.... and we still end up broke. 

I wonder how do other people do it?  Are they just really far in debt?  Do they have family that helps them out all the time?  A rich bachelor uncle who passed away and left them millions?  You know those people.  I'm not even talking about dual income families.  I know some other stay at home moms that seem to have money to burn.  I think my husband makes a decent income and we don't have a lot of debt but we do have a little bit.  We also don't want to be so tight with our money we don't have fun.

My birthday is coming up soon and I have requested that we go away for the weekend.  I would love to do a little shopping in the States and I would REALLY like to spend some time with just my husband but I almost feel guilty.  I feel like I'm being so extravagant and selfish.  Like there could be much better uses of our money.  Even though it's been 2 years since we have gone anywhere alone and I know how important it is to invest in our relationship.

My dad will be away from home that weekend and my mom is happy to watch the kids so the babysitting is covered.  My husband has said that it would work and even suggested we go to Chicago.  I'm excited about getting away yet I'm still sort of nervous about if it's okay.  I know I'll get over it and hopefully we will go and have a great time.  I just hate that being home with my kids makes me feel like more of a burden than a partner.  Another dependant instead of a support. 

I am excited about the idea of going to Chicago though.  I made me think about an old band I like so I'll share with you a little song that I have been singing to myself since we decided to go there. 

http://youtu.be/ihZlQOaR8b8  Is Chicago, Is Not Chicago by Soul Coughing. 

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