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All Grown Up

My daughter turned 7 yesterday and for one of her birthday gifts we gave her a little diary with a lock on it.  She has been all about privacy lately and has been loving writing on any little scrap of paper she can find so we thought this would be a good idea.  I asked her this morning about where she put the key.  I don't think she really understands the idea of how this "secret book" works since she told me she put it with the book so she doesn't loose it.  I tried to explain that if the key is with the book it really won't keep her brother out of it but she apparently doesn't have a firm grasp on his level of curiosity.  Even though he just turned 4 and has no ability to read he has still managed to break her privacy in less than 24 hours. We were upstairs today and my son brings me the opened book.  She apparently also doesn't understand how to even lock it since it was locked on only one loop, therefor not locking it closed at all.  The book was ope

Compliments Don't Connect

If you know someone with low self esteem, and I'm sure you do, you might wonder why no matter how many times you compliment them it just doesn't seem to sink in.  They just can't seem to see themselves the same way others do.  You can tell your friend, girlfriend, wife, mom, or whoever how amazing, intelligent, funny, beautiful, creative, caring and loving they are until you are blue in the face but they just can't hear you. I would like to tell you a few reasons why. For starters, you might have heard this little saying when you were young, sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me.  This saying is quite simply not true, in fact it is dead wrong.  We all know it.  We always have.  I think that the only reason that anyone ever said it was simply to try and convince ourselves that we are strong enough to ignore the hurtful things said to us.  It didn't work. The things said to us when we are young, even if they weren't outright mean,