May I Have This Dance?

Over the last little while I have been thinking about relationships that just sort of slipped away. I've been remembering people that I used to enjoy spending time with and wondering what happened. A lot of the time I expect that if I am interesting enough people would want to spend time with me and they would make the first move of contacting me. So when relationships sort of fade away I assume that it's because I just wasn't interesting enough for them to want to spend time with. Self confidence has played a big part in my letting friendships drift.

I'm not sure why it never occurred to me that the other person could simply be thinking it was me that wasn't interested in spending time together. I'm attempting now to remedy the situations that I have created and recontact some people from my past. It's going to take some time and some doing but I know it will be worth it. Last week I had a great coffee "date" with a friend I haven't seen in years and I really enjoyed hearing about where she's at right now. I also had a fantastic phone conversation with a school friend. It seems the two of us were both sort of dealing with some things in our own lives and let that friendship slip because of extenuating circumstances. We have a fair bit in common and it's to bad that I wasn't there for her when she could have used another friend. Hopefully we'll be spending some time together in the near future.

I feel like I have missed out on relationships and friendships over the years for such silly reasons and a simple lack of confidence. I hope you aren't experiencing the same thing and I can encourage you to just pick up the phone, or send an email to someone you haven't spoken with in a while. They might be waiting for you to make the first move.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Anna Karenina By Leo Tolstoy - A Book Review

When the movie Anna Karenina came out a while back I had a mild desire to see it.  However, when movies come out that are taken from novels, especially classic novels, I will usually read the book first. It sort of slipped my mind for quite a while though until I found it as a free book for my Ereader. Quite a few years ago I remember this book was one on Oprah's Book Club.  One of the first things I found myself questioning was whether or not she ever even read anything more than liner notes or coles' notes at best.  This is a long book....I mean really long.  This is coming from someone that has read the Game of Thones series (A Song of Ice and Fire).  What make this book seem so long is all the superfluous information you encounter at every turn.  I seem to recall that it was more than 10 chapters before Anna was even introduced.  Though the side story is pertinent and somewhat interesting, it can often overshadow the main storyline. What also m...
Read more

How Much Is That A Baby In The Womb

Image
There is a petition making its way around stating Tell Harper: Hands off our reproductive rights.   This is because on the 26 th of April (today) Stephen Harper is apparently going to allow Conservative MP Stephen Woodworth to put forward a motion in the House of Commons which clearly opens the possibility of re-criminalizing abortion.   I have read this motion, Motion 312 and it is one asking that a committee of the House be appointed and directed to review the declaration in Subsection 223(1) of the Criminal Code of Canada which states that a child becomes a human being only at the moment of complete birth.   This committee would be asked to submit their findings after 10 months on what medical evidence exists to demonstrate that a child is or is not a human being before the moment of complete birth. I suppose the concern of allowing this motion to move forward is the fear of what the findings would mean.   IF they find there is evidence that a child is a hu...
Read more

Money, the Root of All Evil?

I'm thinking in a few directions this morning and having trouble deciding what one to talk about. One can be a bit of a sticky subject but some of my thinking was slightly altered about this last night. I think I'm going to talk about money, dun, dun, dun! Money is one of those conversations that tends to be avoided but avoiding something doesn't make the problem go away. Thankfully Randall and I have a similar approach to money, we are both sort of cheep. If I'm going to buy anything I'm going to try and make sure it's the least expensive way I can get it. Randall tends to be the same way. This is helpful for our marriage since 2 people with very different spending styles can have a lot of conflict. I'm not saying we don't have problems at all, we definitely do, just not really with our spending. Part of our spending style I think might have a fair bit to do with necessity although even when we were both working and didn't have kids ...
Read more