The Mother Hood
Alex had a play date today and as so I was able to sit and chat with another mom. It was nice. I enjoyed the company and the interaction that 2 year olds have, or avoid. Alex has changed a lot in the last few months. He used to be very quiet and wouldn't speak when we were out. Now he's become quite energetic and enthusiastic when we are in the company of others. I both enjoy that he has come out of his shell and dislike it. It was sort of nice before to know that if we were in the company of others I would have a quiet and demure child.
During the mommy chat we inevitably got around to the topic of child development. It was reassuring to hear that this mom isn't competitive and realizes that kids grow at their own pace. As long as we are doing what we think is best I believe kids will reach the potential that they have in them. It doesn't really matter how much they are talking at 18 months or it they walked at a year. I'm pretty sure that they will all manage these tasks sufficiently by the time it would matter.
When I got home and was thinking about this it occurred to me that I named this site the mom blah blah blog but I really have not spoken that much about motherhood. I was wondering why I would have done that and I believe it for the aforementioned reason. Competitiveness. It runs strong in the Mother Hood. A part of it is, I suppose, good. We are so proud of our wonderful little children and we are excited to tell others about how amazing a job we have done. Right? Well, I'm not quite sure that's the case.
I believe I haven't mentioned that much about being a mother because A) I don't want people to know how much I screw up and B) I don't know what I'm doing.
I think we have all met that parent that thinks they know everything there is to know about being a parent. What people sometimes forget though is how different every child is. I think even the Duggars with their 19 kids and counting would tell you that there isn't a hard and fast rule for every child. In fact they might be the best people around to tell you how different 2 kids can be. As such, the rules and punishments and rewards that work so well for one child may not have the least effect on another. So I know that any advice or sharing that I do about my kids is just that, for my kids.
Maybe I will write a little more about my experiences as a mother in the future. I may even offer some tips or tricks that have worked for my kids. If people share with me about an issue they have with the raising of their child I will see if I can come up with some suggestions to try it and it doesn't work for you I will not be offended and I hope you will not be upset with me for giving you poor advice. I know when Trinity had colic we tried any and every suggestion anyone gave us. None of them worked.... at all. Do we fault the people that offered the solutions? No, they did work for them. We just had a different child with a different problem.
The Mother Hood can be a tough neighbourhood though. Sometimes you really have to watch your back. I'm just hoping that there is enough of us to band together and watch out for each other that we can make sure no one gets hurt.
During the mommy chat we inevitably got around to the topic of child development. It was reassuring to hear that this mom isn't competitive and realizes that kids grow at their own pace. As long as we are doing what we think is best I believe kids will reach the potential that they have in them. It doesn't really matter how much they are talking at 18 months or it they walked at a year. I'm pretty sure that they will all manage these tasks sufficiently by the time it would matter.
When I got home and was thinking about this it occurred to me that I named this site the mom blah blah blog but I really have not spoken that much about motherhood. I was wondering why I would have done that and I believe it for the aforementioned reason. Competitiveness. It runs strong in the Mother Hood. A part of it is, I suppose, good. We are so proud of our wonderful little children and we are excited to tell others about how amazing a job we have done. Right? Well, I'm not quite sure that's the case.
I believe I haven't mentioned that much about being a mother because A) I don't want people to know how much I screw up and B) I don't know what I'm doing.
I think we have all met that parent that thinks they know everything there is to know about being a parent. What people sometimes forget though is how different every child is. I think even the Duggars with their 19 kids and counting would tell you that there isn't a hard and fast rule for every child. In fact they might be the best people around to tell you how different 2 kids can be. As such, the rules and punishments and rewards that work so well for one child may not have the least effect on another. So I know that any advice or sharing that I do about my kids is just that, for my kids.
Maybe I will write a little more about my experiences as a mother in the future. I may even offer some tips or tricks that have worked for my kids. If people share with me about an issue they have with the raising of their child I will see if I can come up with some suggestions to try it and it doesn't work for you I will not be offended and I hope you will not be upset with me for giving you poor advice. I know when Trinity had colic we tried any and every suggestion anyone gave us. None of them worked.... at all. Do we fault the people that offered the solutions? No, they did work for them. We just had a different child with a different problem.
The Mother Hood can be a tough neighbourhood though. Sometimes you really have to watch your back. I'm just hoping that there is enough of us to band together and watch out for each other that we can make sure no one gets hurt.
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