Friendship in Loss

I just received a message that an acquaintance of mine passed away. We weren't close but he was a member of my church community and his daughter is a few weeks older than my son. I was thinking about them recently since we are doing Elevation at home (church in small groups at houses) again this week and we were in a group with them just before our children were born. I can't imagine the loss of my own husband or what it would mean for my children and I am heartbroken for them as they deal with this reality.

As a show of support for them someone from the church community has decided to deliver meals to them. I will be making one of those meals. It seems like something so insignificant in such a difficult time but what can you do to show friendship to someone experiencing loss. I hope that these efforts transcend mere food and go to show her support, friendship and most of all love.

This also in a small way ties in with my efforts at eliminating negative self talk. In the past when I have been asked to make meals for others I worry my meal is not going to be good enough. That if it's not elaborate and delicious the recipients will somehow look down on me and think less of me. Its only now that I am starting to see that these meals aren't about me, or even the food I make. They are about showing that I am a person that loves them, appreciates them and wants to do what I can to help. Even if it's in as insignificant a way as making food.

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